Wow…this letter was so sobering and revealing for me. I noticed myself answering some questions honestly, and actively avoiding others. Realizing the ones I avoided carry the most info about what I don't want to see about myself, which was uncomfortable and tells me a lot.
What struck me is how I can understand what you’re naming, both intellectually and emotionally (to some degree), and still have remained numb, avoidant and waiting. Seeing that gap between what I “know” and how I actually live is painful…and at the same time strangely clarifying.
This letter helped me see that motivation isn’t something I can think or imagine my way into. I’ve spent years waiting to feel ready or inspired, believing insight or intention alone should be enough. And in that waiting, I’ve been consciously or unconsciously in denial and stuck in magical thinking because I wasn’t actually feeling the costs of staying the same.
Letter 25 helped me understand more of why change is so hard from a neurological perspective (and helped me not feel so uniquely disturbed); this one left me with nowhere to hide. Reading this letter, understanding more about the mechanisms at play, and reflecting on the questions is absolutely changing the way I perceive motivation.
What’s shifting for me is seeing and understanding that motivation isn’t necessarily about forcing myself forward, but more about being willing to face what continuing as I am is costing not just me, but also the people I love. Right now, my edge is choosing to act while I’m still scared, resistant, or unsure. Not dramatically, just honestly. Trusting that meeting reality instead of waiting to feel ready is what will actually build the muscle and allow for real change.
Thank you for naming this all so clearly and without sugarcoating it. 🙏
This is brilliant! Thanks for reaffirming and reminding me how blessed I am because of shaking up my world and allowing my tight bud to blossom. Happy Holidays dear Ronit❤️
Wow…this letter was so sobering and revealing for me. I noticed myself answering some questions honestly, and actively avoiding others. Realizing the ones I avoided carry the most info about what I don't want to see about myself, which was uncomfortable and tells me a lot.
What struck me is how I can understand what you’re naming, both intellectually and emotionally (to some degree), and still have remained numb, avoidant and waiting. Seeing that gap between what I “know” and how I actually live is painful…and at the same time strangely clarifying.
This letter helped me see that motivation isn’t something I can think or imagine my way into. I’ve spent years waiting to feel ready or inspired, believing insight or intention alone should be enough. And in that waiting, I’ve been consciously or unconsciously in denial and stuck in magical thinking because I wasn’t actually feeling the costs of staying the same.
Letter 25 helped me understand more of why change is so hard from a neurological perspective (and helped me not feel so uniquely disturbed); this one left me with nowhere to hide. Reading this letter, understanding more about the mechanisms at play, and reflecting on the questions is absolutely changing the way I perceive motivation.
What’s shifting for me is seeing and understanding that motivation isn’t necessarily about forcing myself forward, but more about being willing to face what continuing as I am is costing not just me, but also the people I love. Right now, my edge is choosing to act while I’m still scared, resistant, or unsure. Not dramatically, just honestly. Trusting that meeting reality instead of waiting to feel ready is what will actually build the muscle and allow for real change.
Thank you for naming this all so clearly and without sugarcoating it. 🙏
This is brilliant! Thanks for reaffirming and reminding me how blessed I am because of shaking up my world and allowing my tight bud to blossom. Happy Holidays dear Ronit❤️
Carol, so glad these letters continue to nourish you. Wishing you and the whole family Happy and Peaceful Holidays! All love💝